A dinner, then? That's a start. But conversation at a dinner is limited to a maximum of ten
people at a round table. Usually it's only
between four (like golf). And what is unifying
about the conversation?
A dinner with an engaging speaker is better.
But what kind of speaker? A jurist? No, that's
about the professional relationship. Politics?
Sports? Not for everyone. Personal tastes among
this sophisticated audience … books,movies, art,
or family matters …are going to be all over the
map.No speaker from any single area will work. Humor is the answer.And not only for obvious
reasons. Laughter shakes you loose. It requires a
lot of breath; it makes the body move. It's physical.
The notion of lawyers acting in concert physically
is perhaps alarming, but it shouldn't be. It's just
shared excitement. (Storming a castle might be
even better for lawyers in a large group than
what I do, but this is unavailable at the preferred
hotels.) Laughter is unifying. There's something
about having seen a hard-headed colleague
laugh at the same thing you thought was funny
— it makes his opinions more tolerable. It's as
if you've touched without the possibility of
stickiness. No fatuous declarations, no fragrances
exchanged, no cooties.
Shared Humor Is Safe Touching.
At events where I entertain lawyers, as soon
as I leave the lectern, every lawyer has plenty
with which to start a conversation throughout
the weekend. Even with the IP associate from the Chicago office. Or with that expensive
lateral hire. Comedy is a homeopathic
miracle, a stimulant and mood enhancer with no bad side effects.
But a lot of comics are cheesy.And
they know little about the lives of
lawyers outside the courtrooms they
see on TV. The humor has to be intelligent. It has to be in good taste. It is
ideal if it is actually relevant to the
practice of law.
Skits prepared by the associates
can do some of this. They certainly
get everyone breathing hard, they can
be very funny. But skits frequently
trample one of the above requirements, the one about good taste. Egos
are not just bruised but barbequed.
Embarrassment lingers long afterwards,
like smoke damage. Skits are also a
tremendous amount of work, as any
associate will tell you who measures a
good night's sleep in tenths of an
hour. No, the humor has to meet not
only all of the above requirements but also has to somehow soften the daily
struggles shared by the audience.
To put it another way, humor
for lawyers is perfect …if it is taken
seriously. ◆
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